Gender Wars!

Okay… not wars, exactly. Just interesting differences.

The idea for this blog was sparked by a rather entertaining conversation I had with my workmate Lauren last week. For those of you who don’t follow my online exploits and don’t know what I do to occupy my days, I work in the office for an adult entertainment agency. It is my job to manage the male stripper half of the business, whilst Lauren manages the girls. The other day we were looking over both booking folders and saying how it’s funny how so many women book literally 6-8 months in advance, yet guys tend to leave it to the last minute. However, nine times out of ten guys will spend at least double what the girls will – it is extremely rare that girls at a hen’s night will ever book more than one male stripper, but it’s common for guys organising a buck’s night to get three topless waitresses and multiple strip shows ranging from mild to very, very wild. Lauren questioned why this is, and I think the answer is quite simple….

Girls don’t like looking at guys as much as guys like looking at girls.

Sure, I can look at a guy and appreciate him for having a pleasing physical appearance, but does it turn me on? Not exactly. I’ve had this conversation with many girlfriends over the years, and not one of us has ever said they’d even consider masturbating to pictures of naked men. Penises just don’t do it for us. Don’t get me wrong, I love dick, but for me it’s got a lot more to do with who it’s attached to than the actual organ itself. If someone tried to start a magazine for women containing pictures of naked men, I think the only people who would buy it would be gay guys. While it’s entirely commonplace for guys to jerk off while looking at a picture of some faceless, anonymous vagina, I can honestly admit that I have never once in my life felt even slightly aroused after looking at a picture of a penis.

Continuing our conversation, I made note of the differences in the types of shows we offer. A popular show on our list for the female strippers is the “Masturbation Show” where the girl strips naked and touches herself til she fakes (?) an orgasm, because let’s be honest, guys like watching chicks get off. But let’s reverse that, and consider a male masturbation show. If we were to add this to our list of services, I would be prepared to bet a very large sum of money that it would NEVER get booked because I don’t know a single girl who wants to sit in a group with her girlfriends and cheer while watching a tanned, muscular stranger rub one out. On a similar note, the female dildo shows are extremely popular, but if we offered a comparable male service we’d have a guy standing there fucking a Fleshlight, and, yeah, well… you get the point.

I find it interesting how men and women can be such different creatures. As humans it is natural for us to be sexual beings, yet the way we feel and express it can be absolutely nothing alike. It’s a crazy world we live in.

Love, Ashlee Adams

xox

P.S. Here’s a picture of my boobs, since that’s what you’re all here for, right ?

Ashlee Adams

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59 Comments for this entry

alex
August 14th, 2009 on 10:28 pm
i would love my dick between those tits all night
Jordyn
August 15th, 2009 on 2:04 am
seriously get some fucking self respect.
you’ve got your tits out on your blog.
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Ichimonji10
August 15th, 2009 on 2:46 am
“i would love my dick between those tits all night ”
-alex

Case in point.
Rick
August 15th, 2009 on 5:41 am
I think what you have to say is so entirely true. Women and men are completely different in the area of what and how we get off on seeing and doing things with the other sex. You expressed that explanation well, and also that women just don’t get turned on in the same way that we as guys do. I think a lot of us guys forget that it does work that way A LOT of the time. I think we forget to do the simple thing and just ask the girl what she would like done to her to get her to that place of satisfaction and pleasure. Okay well to where she has an orgasm, for those who want it spelled out for them in other words. Im glad I took the time to read this blog you wrote Ashlee because I think that its important to know and read it directly from a woman’s perspective. It is important information to know that way you dont assume that something is going to turn her on just because it turns you on. Thanks.
alien
August 15th, 2009 on 7:44 am
yummy! u got a perfect body
chevy
August 15th, 2009 on 7:39 pm
if girls do not like getting off on photos of guy what would you get off on then??
Mark Green
August 16th, 2009 on 12:22 pm
With weapons like those, what chance have we men got?
Joe
August 17th, 2009 on 10:00 pm
Ashlee, you have a great way of communicating and really connect with your audience, and it is nice to hear someone be brave enough to admit that there are big differences between the sexes. I hope you’ll keep this blog coming.

Wise thoughts–from a very sexy lady! Thank you!
Rebecca Avalon
November 11th, 2009 on 4:53 am
I have been to several male reviews. While I find them entertaining and laughable…I’m not turned on. As a stripper, I felt it was my obligation to buy a lapdance since these guys REALLY work much harder onstage for a few dollars than I do. However, Chet the Cowboy was a bit too sweaty for me to really enjoy the proximity of his tighty-whiteys to my nose.