Gender Wars!
by Ashlee Adams , under Ashlee Adams
Okay… not wars, exactly. Just interesting differences.
The idea for this blog was sparked by a rather entertaining conversation I had with my workmate Lauren last week. For those of you who don’t follow my online exploits and don’t know what I do to occupy my days, I work in the office for an adult entertainment agency. It is my job to manage the male stripper half of the business, whilst Lauren manages the girls. The other day we were looking over both booking folders and saying how it’s funny how so many women book literally 6-8 months in advance, yet guys tend to leave it to the last minute. However, nine times out of ten guys will spend at least double what the girls will – it is extremely rare that girls at a hen’s night will ever book more than one male stripper, but it’s common for guys organising a buck’s night to get three topless waitresses and multiple strip shows ranging from mild to very, very wild. Lauren questioned why this is, and I think the answer is quite simple….
Girls don’t like looking at guys as much as guys like looking at girls.
Sure, I can look at a guy and appreciate him for having a pleasing physical appearance, but does it turn me on? Not exactly. I’ve had this conversation with many girlfriends over the years, and not one of us has ever said they’d even consider masturbating to pictures of naked men. Penises just don’t do it for us. Don’t get me wrong, I love dick, but for me it’s got a lot more to do with who it’s attached to than the actual organ itself. If someone tried to start a magazine for women containing pictures of naked men, I think the only people who would buy it would be gay guys. While it’s entirely commonplace for guys to jerk off while looking at a picture of some faceless, anonymous vagina, I can honestly admit that I have never once in my life felt even slightly aroused after looking at a picture of a penis.
Continuing our conversation, I made note of the differences in the types of shows we offer. A popular show on our list for the female strippers is the “Masturbation Show” where the girl strips naked and touches herself til she fakes (?) an orgasm, because let’s be honest, guys like watching chicks get off. But let’s reverse that, and consider a male masturbation show. If we were to add this to our list of services, I would be prepared to bet a very large sum of money that it would NEVER get booked because I don’t know a single girl who wants to sit in a group with her girlfriends and cheer while watching a tanned, muscular stranger rub one out. On a similar note, the female dildo shows are extremely popular, but if we offered a comparable male service we’d have a guy standing there fucking a Fleshlight, and, yeah, well… you get the point.
I find it interesting how men and women can be such different creatures. As humans it is natural for us to be sexual beings, yet the way we feel and express it can be absolutely nothing alike. It’s a crazy world we live in.
Love, Ashlee Adams
xox
P.S. Here’s a picture of my boobs, since that’s what you’re all here for, right ? 
Ashlee Adams
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August 12th, 2009 on 6:39 pm
Wowzor
August 12th, 2009 on 6:46 pm
Brains and Boobs – what more could ya want!? =)x
August 12th, 2009 on 6:48 pm
thought there was going to be a trick but
there great
August 12th, 2009 on 6:52 pm
absolutely beutiful girl
we should meet some day
wb
xoxoxo
August 12th, 2009 on 6:52 pm
Bloody good column, Ms. Adams.
For most women, so it seems, it is indeed the relationship that one has with a man that matters the most in female sexuality. That probably why a lot of pornography doesn’t appeal to them nearly as much as it does to many men.
That doesn’t mean that there aren’t exceptions to those rules; far from it.
Just that the standard reactions and behaviour for heterosexual men and women differ considerably, that’s all.
Oh, yes. Love the pic, too:).
August 12th, 2009 on 6:56 pm
I Stopped Playing World Of Warcraft For This
August 12th, 2009 on 6:56 pm
hey ur tits are so hot
i would love to like them all night
xx
August 12th, 2009 on 6:57 pm
funny u should say that i was having a similar drunken ramble to my mate who is a stripper butt she reckons lads get strippers to show off aswell as wanting to see girls getting loose …pce
August 12th, 2009 on 6:59 pm
wow thats nice
you have great boobs
August 12th, 2009 on 7:00 pm
I was here to read & enjoy the blog HOWEVER i also enjoyed the picture too
August 12th, 2009 on 7:04 pm
First off, amazing boobs. HAHAHA
Anyways I knew guys that were strippers and they told me women get down with them like worse than guys. Women rather be involved in the sexual activity than watch it for sure. Horn dogs.
August 12th, 2009 on 7:08 pm
Collin – That is a good point. As a manager of male strippers I hear all kinds of crazy stories! However, I think a lot of it is due to the fact that the male strippers tend to be far more lenient when it comes to letting the girls get physical with them… most of the male strippers I know welcome the wandering hands of drunken ladies, whilst the female strippers we employ generally don’t let the guys touch them at all, some even go as far as throwing hissy fits and storming out should a guy dare lay one hand on her.
August 12th, 2009 on 7:09 pm
It’s like the way Jerry Seinfeld describes it in one episode. Womens bodies are like sleek sports cars that are cool to look at and mens bodies are like a jeep, not very exciting to look at, they just get you where you’re going. I’m paraphrasing but I think you get the point. Btw, the boobs were a great ending to the article.
August 12th, 2009 on 7:11 pm
ha ha that is so true its just coz guys don’t look as appealing as girls lol our junk is all kinda out there and really who wants to look at that ? thats why we find places to put them lol
August 12th, 2009 on 7:14 pm
haha this is so true,, funny how different things r..
ohh great pic by the way,, really cute
August 12th, 2009 on 7:31 pm
hahahahaha I think its just funny as fuck true but I do know a number of women that love to see a guy stroke his oldboy on webcam as they cyber so ya don’t know ayye. Oh yeah love the pic too nice tatts and nic tits hehe
August 12th, 2009 on 7:31 pm
Beautiful face, great boobs and awesome tats, what more could a guy ask for.
August 12th, 2009 on 7:58 pm
Fukin yummy!!
August 12th, 2009 on 9:27 pm
Very nice Ashlee, been following you on Myspace and twitter and facebook, so seeing the tits is nice.
August 12th, 2009 on 9:32 pm
Men are visual creatures, it’s a fact, lol. Hell, apparently we’re great at merely visualizing (look at how popular supplements and columns like “letters to penthouse” are). A guy can claim to take absolutely no interest in pictures (or strip shows, as you said) of gorgeous naked ladies, but I could also claim to be king of the entire universe…..doesn’t mean that either of the claims are truthful though. That’s not to say that men don’t feel a connection too. If given a choice, I know I would personally much rather see naked pics of women I know, or have come into contact with. It’s pretty much ego though. Even if a guy knows in his soul, right down to the core of his being, that he would never talk to a certain female he knows “in that way”, that wouldn’t stop him from looking at her naked….and then thinking to himself “if I wanted to, I could have that”. As I said, it’s all about the ego at that point.
August 12th, 2009 on 9:34 pm
Cool!
August 12th, 2009 on 9:52 pm
I’m just glad that there are girls like yourself who are prepared to bare their finest assets for guys’ enjoyment.
August 12th, 2009 on 10:52 pm
sexy body
August 12th, 2009 on 11:02 pm
damn….thats very interesting…..and what a nice pair might i add…lol…
August 13th, 2009 on 12:03 am
Beautiful tits! what a way to start the morning!
August 13th, 2009 on 1:29 am
hey Ash Iv read your blog And i find being a guy…. We like pictures more than words so to speak and how many guys do you know that read any of the letters/txt in mens mags I know I sure don’t lol
Having saying that Men are also driven by there fridns to out do themselves when around other males its like a animal thing to look the best and show the balls and the more money spent In 1 nights sitting the more satisfied we get hence the more girls/topless girls scientist think its a more of a puma/cat trademark
But you are Right… sometimes I wonder how we do as male and female live together/get along
But like the saying goes opposites attract someday I will attract some1 that will answer that
Anyway much loVe out there girls and guys
RoBBieeeeeee
August 13th, 2009 on 1:34 am
I just relised that most of the post/comments are actualy mails hahah so maybe we are more observant than I thought and I also noticed some other guy just said the same thing as me hahah I should read b4 I post mehhh hahah
August 13th, 2009 on 2:29 am
beautiful!!!
August 13th, 2009 on 2:43 am
beautiful as always!
August 13th, 2009 on 4:22 am
nice tits so give you my number is [deleted--admin: this is for your own good] text me!!!!!!!!!
August 13th, 2009 on 8:24 am
lol nice ones
August 13th, 2009 on 10:28 am
hahah, “nice tits text me..” do girls really like that shit? weird.
anyway, can’t say i know much about the stripper business but it’s probably true in general that guys are more into the visual stuff. but yeah, it was a good read.
August 13th, 2009 on 10:31 am
u look great i lovr original tits
August 13th, 2009 on 10:33 am
you are one helluva fine looking woman
August 13th, 2009 on 10:39 am
Ha ha ha, Joel, it’s probably not a great idea to be posting your number on here, mate. Don’t forget this is a public website that ANYONE can read, and, well, the chance of me actually texting you is slim to none
August 13th, 2009 on 10:49 am
Hey Ash,
nice blog, keep up the writing! You have a knack for it.
August 13th, 2009 on 11:06 am
Huge tits. Ash. And a great blog. I found out something about you that I didn’t know. I don’t care about you being a model. I just want get to know you.
You’re right we as men are more visual in many things. I look at Hustler magazine. I go straight to the girls. Just how I’m built. I don’t excuse it.
I have a question when I went to this site. It tolled me you’ve got to be 18. If not then leave. Are these people 18?. Other than that. I love the work you do and that you’re not afraid to have someone come to ya. To say hi. Thats something I admire.
August 13th, 2009 on 11:15 am
gorgeous with nice tits
August 13th, 2009 on 11:36 am
Don’t worry I’m not trying to be defensive or start an argument. I like to chat with you guys. Hey Ash, I don’t hear from ya on myspace all that much. You should drop me message. Let me know you’re still alive. Now don’t be offended if I asked if these people are 18 years old or over. Because I don’t want penthouse to get sued and you to get fired.
This is a public website. Yes, but we need to be reminded that its illegal to have someone under 18 to view adult stuff. Just something for u to think about. Do what you want with the info I gave you. Thats that. Take care Ms. Adams
August 13th, 2009 on 12:08 pm
Hi Mike,
Your’re getting quite unnecessarily persistent about these “charges” you keep mentioning. The fact is, no content we publish on this site is greater than M-rated, and we are well aware of what can and cannot be published online (if we wanted to go further, we know all about password protected membership sites). You can see topless women on primetime network television (see here), so what we are showing is not far from what is available in the mainstream. And it’s not illegal in any way.
I think your definition of “adult stuff” is a little too far away from everyone else’s definition. What we show on the website is “mature” certainly, but it is just that — mature. R-rated material is only seen in the Black Label edition of the magazine (Subscribe now!) and it certainly isn’t on here. And the fact that we’re able to link to foreign websites with far more explicit content says more about Australian Internet laws than anything else. Bottom line is, if you think it’s inappropriate still, stay away, and make sure any minors you have influence over stay away also. We’re certainly not making anyone look at it.
Thanks, Steve Turner. Website Producer.
August 13th, 2009 on 12:53 pm
Mr. Turner. Thanks for making it clear for me. Now I understand. No problem man. Cool, Hope we’re still on the same page. Take care guys.
I like you guys.
August 13th, 2009 on 1:30 pm
I think were more alike than most people think. I don’t think a girl is gay because she finds the female body more attractive than a mans body. It’s just a natural normal observation and frequently doesn’t have anything to do with sexuality.
August 13th, 2009 on 2:17 pm
Chicks rule, and most guys are chronic jackoffs… You’re right as always!!!
August 13th, 2009 on 2:21 pm
hey Ashlee Adams
great photo we are friends on myspace
love you
August 13th, 2009 on 3:32 pm
I wish there were more girls like you writing for the men out there. They need to learn these things somewhere
August 13th, 2009 on 3:52 pm
Love the leopard print!
And your very cute
Pretty eyes by the way
August 13th, 2009 on 5:12 pm
haha nice blog. Is working in the adult industry as good as it sounds?
August 14th, 2009 on 4:58 am
It’s because men are from mars and women are from venus
Anyway, nice blog!
August 14th, 2009 on 7:42 pm
well if u could do a hole nude, every1 would vote 4 u as the penthouse pet, babe,
August 14th, 2009 on 8:58 pm
I disagree… I’ve never once felt slightly aroused by just looking at a pic of a naked girl… For example on this page u have posted a pic of urself topless. Obviously ur an very beautiful woman but does ur pic turn me on? Not really. Could I masterbate over it? No. Like you said It’s more about the person that they are attached to.